You're invited to join this new workshop from Mothering Your Heart, for an extra layer of support as you find your way through your grief, love and life after loss.
You'll have your own personal workshop space, guided meditations, workbooks, journal prompts, suggested activities, creative projects, and the option to connect with others if you like in a private community away from social media.
These losses can be shockingly painful.
You may find that the intensity of this grief is the hardest thing you'll ever experience.
The people you usually turn to for help can have a hard time understanding what you're going through.
While this is 'normal' because many people don't know what to say if they haven't gone through anything similar, losing parts of your support system can make everything even more difficult.
You'll be guided to identify tools that work for you and ways of accessing new sources of support.
Through each module you're encouraged to explore and collect new tools, and to carry them with you for the harder times.
We generally aren't taught how to do this kind of grieving, but feeling supported, heard and understood can make a difference in how you're able to cope and keep going.
A whole lot of encouragement to keep going in your own way
Support + guidance to create a foundation for your life after loss
Respect for your process, and the individual nature of grief
Connection within a private, online community (the community is held away from social media so you can have a break from your feeds)
Move at your own pace; take what you need, let go of the rest
Common reactions to and effects of child, baby and fertility losses, how they can impact you personally and how to support yourself
New coping strategies to help you find out what works for you
Inspiration and hope as you find your light again
This is a place to unravel your story as you figure out what's next, to simply be with your experience, your grief and your love.
It can be hard to figure out who you are now and what you need, but there's no pressure. You're encouraged to check in frequently with yourself and always go at your own pace.
What we cover may feel simple but it is powerful stuff.
You'll be supported to tune in to your heart in a way that can be hard to do in the outside world.
When you hear what your own wise self has to say, you'll discover a whole new level of love and support.
When it comes down to it, your heart can guide you through - but it's important to have time and space to do this listening.
As you walk and as you listen, know that there are many of us beside you, walking our individual paths.
That even though your grief + love are unique to your heart, that your beloved missing and wished-for are yours alone, there are others walking close by.
Throughout each module you'll find support and encouragement, self care suggestions, resources around grief and loss (and love, always love), with the option of community. Click to expand the four parts below to see the monthly topics.
Throughout this section you'll be guided to create a foundation (based on the idea of surrounding yourself with comfort and support) on which to move forward in your journey.
This is not the same as suggesting you move on (which is not a reasonable expectation with these kinds of losses) rather it is being supported as you go through this very intense experience, with love and encouragement to keep going.
1) CREATE SPACE
For this first topic, you'll be supported to create space in your life for this journey you're on.
Spend time putting foundational pieces into place so that you can feel more supported both in your heart and your day to day life.
2) EFFECTS OF GRIEF AND LOSS
The effects of these losses on your body, heart and mind are significant and often overlooked.
In this module you'll explore some of the physical and emotional effects of grief and loss.
You're invited to assess your basic (and not so basic) self care needs. Whether this is an area that has fallen to the side in your grief, or you just want to check in and get more supports in place, you may be surprised at how this can affect your ability to cope and keep going over the longer term.
3) CIRCLES OF SUPPORT
Here you're invited to look at your existing circles of support, with exercises to identify who and what you already have in place and whether more is needed.
Your support systems and ways of coping are unique to you, but it can be hard to know what helps when you're in the midst of the struggle.
You'll be encouraged to explore options to expand your circles of support and to consider what optimal support looks like for you.
In preparation for this month you'll also receive your invitation to join the private (and always totally optional) community space, if you'd like to try it out as one of your supports.
In the end this is a love story, but there is also a whole lot of pain, sadness, grief and tragedy to sort through.
MODULE 4) TOOLS FOR MY HEART
You're invited to create a collection of tools that have helped you personally, so you have the ideas easily available on the harder days.
You can add to your collection through the program as you identify more, or consider new coping strategies and heart-tools that you'd like to try.
MODULE 5) MY STORY
This month you're invited to consider the ideas of grief as a reflection of love, and grief being the result of love with nowhere to go or 'be'.
Expanding on your love story you'll have space to explore those aspects of your story that provide comfort and connection and whether there are parts you would like to focus on and carry with you over time.
MODULE 6) HEALING IN NATURE
Grief this deep often alters your perception in different ways. Within the confusion, pain, reorganization and basically just looking at the wreckage around you in the early months, there can also be a sense of clarity that you didn't notice before.
In this module you're invited to focus in on some of these small, clear details, patterns and ways of being in the world, and how they might appear in nature.
Laying down your grief in small ways while allowing nature to 'do the work' can support moments of peace and calm.
This experience, your love and your grief will be with you for the rest of your life. It will all change over time, but the impact remains - what has happened is now a part of you.
7) SPECIAL DAYS
There are so many 'big' days throughout the year, and their effects on your heart, mind and body can be significant. Along with the anticipation, these days can really derail how you feel you're doing.
You'll look at ways to prepare for and cope with these special days, and create a plan for getting through them.
8) HONOUR + REMEMBER
In the aftermath of your loss, and with the great desire to mother or parent your child, it can be hard to think of your own needs and to see what you've gone through, or why you would want to honour this in any way.
It is important to know that what you have gone through matters deeply, with validation and acknowledgement needed from both the outside world and within your own heart.
You'll be invited this month to explore ways of remembering your beloved and/or longed-for / dreamed-about missing one(s), to reflect what's most important to you.
You'll also be invited to create events, routines, ceremonies, or simply day to day acts of remembering - whatever speaks most deeply to and from your heart.
Remembering after a traumatic loss can require professional support through trauma informed therapy.
This module does not involve that type of remembering - it is instead an opportunity for you to examine the love within your story, and to bring some of that love into your life in tangible ways that support your heart as you keep going.
9) COPING OVER TIME
Grief can feel quite relentless and it is common to wonder how you can keep going with the weight of it.
In this module you'll explore adding to your heart-tools for the journey ahead, feeling more supported in and familiar with your grief and your ability to keep going.
In these modules you'll explore the 'lighter' aspects on the spectrum of grief and loss, and how your experience may shift over time, with a focus on setting practices in place for the next part of your journey.
MODULE 10) INVITING LIGHT
This is a month devoted to exploring the moments of peace and light that can be accessed in grief.
You're invited to explore this lightness in different ways, noticing it, being present when you can, and considering ways to expand any feelings of calm or peace that you experience.
MODULE 11) INTEGRATING LOSS
In this module you'll have the opportunity to explore the concept of integrating loss over time, rather than trying to move on or fight against your truth, as we are often pressured to do.
There is no timeline for your experience with grief (or love), and as with any of the material here you're invited to take what is relevant and leave the rest, always keeping in mind the chance to add to your collection of heart-tools.
MODULE 12) MOTHERING YOUR HEART
In our special closing module you'll be supported to gently bless what you've been through over our time together and to envision an outline of the path that will guide you onto the next part of your journey.
You'll close your process here with a guided mini retreat, with the option to create a day or an actual retreat that is as simple or as elaborate as your heart desires.
~ Social media can be tough after loss. The private community space lets you take a break from your regular feeds + platforms.
~ This space is a place to hang out, be heard or just know others are around.
~ It is also totally optional, because sometimes you need to do this heart-work on your own.
~ The community is introduced at the end of the third module, once you've had a chance to get oriented and have supports in place.
~ This space is separate from the program content so there's never any pressure to join in or read the discussions.
~ There are different group options and you'll be invited to join the group that feels like the best fit for you.
~ Community options include Infertility Losses, Early Pregnancy Loss, Loss in Later Pregnancy, In Labour or After Birth, and Infant, Child or Older Child / Adult Child Loss.
~ Group availability may change over time, depending on who is taking the program.
~ There are also community options for those who do or do not have living children.
"I could feel how much heart and soul Shannon poured into the material and the program development. I felt supported and I felt I could rest in the space she created."
"It was a beautiful private journey but I felt so held by Shannon and the community. I would feel so comfortable suggesting this for other mothers with broken hearts."
"I think that's the beauty of this workshop. It's effortless in a way. We are guided through the journey of self-learning. I'm not sure I would have had the strength to do this alone."
"The workshop was a calm space and it helped me feel more grounded when I had to go back to work. I've had a lot of anxiety but I've been able to go out more and start to do things again, and know what to do when I'm getting overwhelmed."
I'm honoured to meet you here, and to host and facilitate this program.
I acknowledge the love and the pain that have brought you here and hope this space can provide some comfort.
I look forward to sharing part of your journey and hearing more of your story if you join the program. Please let me know if there is anything you're wondering about or would like to see included.
I had to include this question because I admit there is a lot of pink happening here and that not everyone appreciates it. The program modules move through a number of different colours so I hope no one colour gets too tiring for anyone - and I know this is kind of a silly question but I actually asked it myself as I was creating the content, so thought others might be curious too... xo
If you're interested in the Mothering Your Heart program but want to connect on a more personal level as well, you have the option of adding private 1:1 sessions.
This is not therapy, counselling or medical care. Rather these sessions combine the support you might like to have from an experienced midwife, a trusted listener, a compassionate friend, someone who knows deep grief, love and just how hard it is to keep going after losing a baby, a child, or experiencing a loss after infertility treatments.
If you're signing up for the program it provides an additional layer of support between sessions. When we meet we can talk about what you're working through in the program, or if you prefer we can look at other happenings in your life.
You can schedule sessions anytime as you go through the program.
You'll find a link to the scheduling page after you sign up as well as in the workspace.
You can also book private sessions without signing up for the MYH program - you'll find more information below.
For personal grief support, there are two ways to book a session:
1) Book a Session within the MYH Program
You'll receive the link to the scheduling page after you sign up and in the program workspace so you can book a session anytime, either when you join or later if you prefer.
2) Book a Session without the MYH Program
If you would rather work 1:1 with me without the program you can book your session below.
It is an honour to meet you, to hear your story, to learn about your grief and your love, to witness your process as you continue to take your next steps.
Please contact me at [email protected] with any questions.