You're invited to join this new program from Mothering Your Heart, for an extra layer of support as you find your way through your grief, love and life after loss.
Come and go as you need to, you'll have your own personal workshop space and the option to connect with others if you like, in a private community away from social media.
These losses can be shockingly painful.
You may find that the intensity of this grief is the hardest thing you'll ever experience.
The people you usually turn to for help can have a hard time understanding what you're going through.
While this is 'normal' because so many people don't know what to say if they haven't gone through anything similar, losing your support system can cause even more pain than you're already in.
Throughout the program, you're guided to identify tools that work for you and sources of support. Some of these supports you may have expected and some may be new - this is a process of rebuilding.
You'll also explore how to expand these tools, creating circles of support to help you through.
We aren't taught how to 'do' this kind of grief and it can be so incredibly hard.
Being supported, heard and understood can make a difference in how you're able to cope and keep going.
It can be hard to figure out who you are now and what you need, but there's no pressure here. You're encouraged to check in frequently with yourself and always go at your own pace.
What we cover may feel simple but it is powerful stuff. You're supported to tune in to your heart in a way that can be hard to do in the outside world.
When you hear what your own wise self has to say, you'll discover a whole new level of love and support.
When it comes down to it, your heart can guide you through - but it's important to have support outside of yourself.
This guiding, this learning to listen to that slower, quiet voice, it takes time.
Throughout each module you'll find support and encouragement, self care suggestions, resources around grief and loss (and love, always love), with the option of community. Click below for the topics we cover.
1) CREATE SPACE
For this first topic, you'll be supported to create space in your life for this journey you're on.
Spend time putting foundational pieces into place so that you can feel more supported both in your heart and your day to day life.
2) EFFECTS OF GRIEF AND LOSS
The effects of these losses on your body, heart and mind are significant and often overlooked.
In this module you'll explore some of the physical and emotional effects of grief and loss.
You're invited to assess your basic (and not so basic) self care needs, whether they've fallen aside in your grief or you just want to check in and get more supports in place. You may be surprised at how this can affect your ability to cope and keep going over the longer term.
3) CIRCLES OF SUPPORT
Here you're invited to look at your existing circles of support, with exercises to identify who and what you already have in place and whether more is needed.
Your support systems and ways of coping are unique to you, but it can be hard to know what helps when you're in the midst of the struggle.
You'll be encouraged to explore options to expand your circles of support and to consider what optimal support looks like for you.
This month you'll also receive your invitation to join the private community space, if you'd like to try it out as one of your supports.
MODULE 4) TOOLS FOR YOUR HEART
You're invited to create a collection of tools that have helped you personally, so you have the ideas easily available on the harder days.
You can add to your collection through the program as you identify more, or consider new coping strategies and heart-tools that you'd like to try.
MODULE 5) SPECIAL DAYS
There are so many 'big' days throughout the year, and their effects on your heart, mind and body can be significant. Along with the anticipation, these days can really derail how you feel you're doing.
You'll look at ways to prepare for and cope with these special days, and create a plan for getting through them.
MODULE 6) YOUR STORY
Here you are invited to consider the ideas of grief as a reflection of love, and grief being the result of love with nowhere to go or 'be'.
Remembering after a traumatic loss can require professional support through trauma informed therapy.
This module does not involve that type of remembering - it is instead an opportunity for you to examine the love within your story, and to bring some of that love into your life in tangible ways that support your heart as you keep going.
7) HONOUR YOUR JOURNEY
In the aftermath of your loss, and with the great desire to mother or parent your child, it can be hard to think of your own needs and to see what you've gone through, or why you would want to honour this in any way.
This has been a transformative experience however, and it is important to know that what you have gone through matters deeply. In honour of your beloved missing one(s) you're invited this month to explore ways of allowing the transformation to support you in your journey from this point on.
8) REMEMBER ON YOUR TERMS
This month you'll explore the very special and precious idea of remembering your beloved and/or longed-for / dreamed-about missing one(s), in ways that reflect what is important to you and your heart.
You'll be invited to create events, routines, ceremonies, or simply day to day acts of remembering - whatever speaks most deeply to you.
You'll be supported to trust that you know what you need to do - and that it's okay to let the opinions of others around this topic fade into the background.
Your heart knows what it needs.
9) COPING OVER TIME
Grief can feel quite relentless and it is common to wonder how you can keep going with the weight of it.
This month you'll explore again the idea of adding to your heart-tools for the journey ahead, feeling more supported and with the belief that you're able to get through.
MODULE 10) LIGHT + NATURE
Grief this deep often alters how you perceive the world. Amidst the confusion, pain, reorganization and basically just looking at the wreckage around you in the early months, there can also be a sense of crystal clear clarity about some things.
In this module you're invited to focus in on some of the smaller details that you may once have not noticed quite so much. Many of these details are found in the natural world around us, and people often feel a deep sense of peace when they're able to connect and focus on this level.
This is a month devoted to the peace that is available when we are be-ing rather than do-ing, with some interesting activities to help you access that space.
MODULE 11) INTEGRATING LOSS
In this module you'll have the opportunity to explore the concept of integrating loss over time, rather than trying to move on or fight against your truth, as we are often pressured to do.
There is no timeline for your experience with grief (or love), and as with any of the material here you're invited to take what is relevant and leave the rest, always keeping in mind the chance to add to your collection of heart-tools.
MODULE 12) MOTHERING YOUR HEART
In our special closing module you'll be supported to gently bless what you've been through over our time together and to envision an outline of the path that will guide you onto the next part of your journey.
You'll close your process here with a guided mini retreat, with the option to create a day or an actual retreat that is as simple or as elaborate as your heart desires.
~ Social media can be tough after loss. The private community space lets you take a break from your regular feeds + platforms.
~ This space is a place to hang out, be heard or just know others are around.
~ It is also totally optional, because sometimes you need to do this heart-work on your own.
~ The community is introduced after the first few weeks, once you've had a chance to get oriented and have supports in place.
~ This space is separate from the program content so there's never any pressure to join in or read the discussions.
~ There are different group options and you'll be invited to join the group that feels like the best fit for you.
~ Group options include Infertility Losses, Early Pregnancy Loss, Loss in Later Pregnancy, In Labour or After Birth, and Infant, Child or Older Child / Adult Child Loss. These may change over time depending on who is taking the program.
"I could feel how much heart and soul Shannon poured into the material and the program development. I felt supported and I felt I could rest in the space she created."
"It was a beautiful private journey but I felt so held by Shannon and the community. I would feel so comfortable suggesting this for other mothers with broken hearts."
"I think that's the beauty of this workshop. It's effortless in a way. We are guided through the journey of self-learning. I'm not sure I would have had the strength to do this alone."
"The workshop was a calm space and it helped me feel more grounded when I had to go back to work. I've had a lot of anxiety but I've been able to go out more and start to do things again, and know what to do when I'm getting overwhelmed."
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I am honoured to be your host and facilitator for this Mothering Your Heart program, and acknowledge the love and the pain that have brought you here.