Mothering Your Heart provides a private and supportive space for women from different backgrounds, each with her own unique story. We encourage compassion, empathy and respect for every member. This program may not be for everyone, so if you are wondering please read through these questions and see how you feel.
Please send an email with any questions not answered here.
Who is this program for?
The MYH program is for women who have experienced many different kinds of loss. We believe that every baby, every desire for a baby and every loss is unique and that grief is always an individual experience. You may relate right away with the following losses, or you may have experienced a different kind of loss - please contact us if you are unsure about whether to join.
Basically we try to provide a space where everyone feels included and welcome. What we have in common is that for whatever reason we are not able to hold our babies in our arms, and this includes our 'babies' from pre-conception through adulthood. We believe that once we open our hearts to becoming a mother, our babies always exist there even when they are not here with us on earth. Sometimes the language that we use is different than what you are used to or would use to describe your personal situation. We are open to suggestions and want people to feel comfortable so please feel free to let us know if there is something you would like us to consider.
Our program is designed to be inclusive of many types of loss:
~ Infertility or unsuccessful fertility treatments
~ The death of your baby or babies during pregnancy or birth
~ The death of your baby or babies after being born
~ The death of your child or children at any time
~ Adoption breakdown involving a baby or older child
I am trying to conceive, or I am pregnant - can I join?
If our descriptions so far resonate with your personal experience you are welcome to join. We aim to create a space that is safe and comfortable for women in many different situations, including women who cannot conceive, so we ask that above all everyone be respectful of each others' experiences. We do post guidelines for discussion and ask that discussions about living children be approached with compassion and sensitivity, and this holds true for all the discussions in our community spaces.
My loss happened recently - how soon can I join?
As we do not provide a substitute for medical or midwifery care, therapy, counseling or other mental health services, we ask that you consider waiting to join the program until at least 1-2 months after your loss or at least until you are medically stable. Joining earlier is possible and ultimately you are the one who will decide whether you feel you could benefit from the program, but joining too soon may be difficult if you are not ready. If you have questions, please ask anytime.
I have been diagnosed with depression / post traumatic stress / anxiety or something else - can I still join?
Intense grief is common with infertility and pregnancy, baby or child loss and additional support is often needed. If you are working with a physician, midwife or mental health care worker (therapist, counselor, psychologist or psychiatrist), please let them know you are considering taking this program. They (or you) are welcome to contact Mothering Your Heart as needed for more information about the suitability of this program, although it is in essence very similar to an informal support group or guided online forum.
This program is not a replacement for therapy or medical care. We will focus on ways to nurture yourself, provide a better understanding of grief and loss, and offer the support of community. If you are not working with a therapist and/or do not feel emotionally or mentally stable you may wish to find professional help before signing up for this program.
If none of these are in your community, look up “crisis line” or “suicide hotline” and call. You are not alone. Grief can be VERY hard but there are people who want to help and who can walk with you until you begin to feel that you can manage – please call someone right away.
Questions about content or cancellations should be sent to [email protected] and are considered on an individual basis.